Weinie anyone???

Recently at a dinner meeting I attended for my husband (us stay at home Mom's don't do dinner meetings very often) I heard a speaker talking about the difference in the workplace with all the generations of people. So mostly how to explain the Gen Y group that is up and coming into the workplace. Most older folks had a negative opinion of the newer staff, some had good stories. ..but in the end all I kept thinking was 'It's the parents fault'. I wanted to scream it out loud whenever anyone complained about how the kids needed praise to even feel worthy, needed to be told ASAP that they were doing a good job. Needed constant gratification so they could continue doing the work. If all these things did not happen they slacked off, did not focus as well and generally did a shitty job. So is it society who raises kids or the parents. Now I know as well as anyone some kids don't have decent parents and rely on the goodness of places like a Boys and Girls Club or extended family or friends family. That's not who I'm talking about here. I'm talking about kids who have parents who still wipe their ass at the ripe old age of ten, then congratulate them on doing a good job. I'm talking about parents who are raising their kids not to be able to think for themselves. Yes the kids are smart, yes they know the inside of a computer better than I ever will, and yes they can download anything off the Internet while iming and facebooking and whatever. But can they have a conversation with a person right in front of them? Have their parents ever told them to toughen up? Deal with it life is tough? Frankly I think we have raised a pile of wienies, who need to be told what a great job they have done when really it's crap. I'm not the most perfect mother but there have been several times that I have told my kids to deal with it, toughen up, life's tough! I don't ever let them think they are perfect or the best. I never tell them they suck, I never tell them they have done a bad job. But I encourage them to do better and work harder. And love them for who they are, very wonderful average kids who are good at heart and good to others and themselves. They don't need me to tell them that it's okay to go poop and they don't even need me to tell them they did a good job. They know it's just a normal activity not to be given a pat on the back. But when they act like assholes I don't give them their way, when they act like angles I give them all the attention they want. Positive = Positive Negative = Negative....seems simple. Let's be parents and let our kids grow up.